It's never an easy task to explain to someone how their stage presence was lacking during a trial run of their presentation and it's certainly no easier being on the opposite end of that conversation. The same applies when suggesting to a family member that they were too harsh in their delivery when speaking to someone. But no matter how difficult it may be, the fact is that sharing and receiving well-thought out opinions is crucial in the world of communication. Here are some great tips for both providing and receiving constructive criticism.
Providing Constructive Criticism:
For some, providing feedback and advice comes naturally but it can be awkward and frightening to others who have to share less than favorable opinions. If done the right way, offering constructive criticism can assist someone along on their path to success.
1. Think before you speak. A basic process that we often forget. Before offering your opinion to someone make sure that your point is well thought out and that it's coming from a neutral point of view.
2. Remember what you're trying to convey. When providing constructive criticism, remember that the reason you are offering this advice is to help the receiver correct their actions and grow. Be positive and clear in your message.
3. It's how you say it. Manage your emotions prior to offering your advice. Constructive criticism can be easily mistaken for criticism if said in the wrong tone. If the receiver perceives your opinions to be harsh or biased, they will often shut out any advice you have to offer no matter how true it may be. Remember that the objective is to help the receiver, not damage their self-esteem.
4. Offer suggestions. Constructive criticism is usually more accepted when offered with solutions that can help the receiver improve. Providing meaningful advice and tips helps the receiver see that you are trying to help them rather than just raining on their parade.
4. Everything little thing does not warrant criticism, even if it is constructive. Some people are a bit more critical than others. If you find yourself continuously providing criticism, you may be one of them. If this is the case, take a step back each time you get the urge to share your opinion to make sure that it is necessary. The opinion of someone who seldom offers it, is more valued.
Receiving Constructive Criticism:
It's hard to hear the truth. Especially when you just poured your heart out to your friend or put your all into a paper but hearing outside opinions can be beneficial to your growth.
1. Keep an open mind. Be receptive to all opinions that people offer and try to see things from their point of view. Hearing an outside perspective will provide insight as to how others may perceive you. Don't take it too personal.
2. Ask questions. If you don't quite understand the advice that was given, ask for clarification (another positive contributor in the world of communication.) It's important to understand exactly what people mean when they offer their opinions and advice. Remember that these are only opinions so while it's okay to play devil's advocate to try to debunk the opinions being offered there is no need for a drawn out debate.
3. Follow up. After you've taken the providers advice into consideration, show them the tweaks and progress you have made. Discuss the changes and ask them to critique again.
4. Thank your critic. Show gratitude to your critic by thanking them for their advice (even if they weren't so nice about it). Whether their delivery was subtle or not, it can still be used to broaden your perspective and continue your growth.
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